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"Listening to Mothers"

In 2002, a national survey was performed by a group called “Listening to Mothers.” The survey was conducted by the Maternity Center Association and performed by Harris Interactive. Many of the survey questions had never before been asked at the national level in the U.S.

The survey included 1,583 women from across the United States during May and June of 2002. All of the women had given birth within 24 months of completing the survey, and the survey focused on their experiences relating to their most recent birth - including pregnancy, labor and birth, and the weeks and months following delivery. The survey was designed to reflect the national profile of childbearing women, with some limitations (they did not, for example, include women who had given birth to twins or women whose babies were not living at the time of the survey).

Here are some of the findings from the national survey:

Location of Births

97% of surveyed mothers’ births took place in hospitals.

Medical Interventions

Less than 1% of mothers gave birth “naturally” – that is, without pain medication or medical interventions. The majority of the 1% came from the home birth mother’s group.

Overall Birth Interventions

One or More Vaginal Exams87%
Intravenous Fluids86%
Broken Membranes55%
“Pitocin” (after labor began)53%
Bladder Catheter52%
Stitching Near Vagina52%
Internal Check of Uterus After Birth49%
Episiotomy27%
Cesarean Section24%
Pubic Hair Shave19%
Vacuum Extraction7%
Enema or Laxative6%
Forceps3%




Walking in Labor

Most mothers (71%) did not walk around, primarily because they were hooked up to instruments, could not walk because of pain medications or were told by their caregivers not to walk around.

Reasons for Not Walking Around During Labor

Connected to Things67%
Unable to Support Self Due To Pain Medication32%
Told Not To Walk Around28%
Chose to Stay in One Place21%
Groggy Due To Pain Medication20%
Don’t Remember1%




Positions of Delivery in Vaginal Births

74% of women who gave birth vaginally did so on their backs while pushing their baby out. 23% delivered in an upright position (either propped up, squatting or sitting). 3% gave birth lying on their side.

Labor Induction

Almost half (44%) of all mothers and half (49%) of those giving birth vaginally reported that their caregiver tried to induce labor, most commonly through the use of artificial oxytocin (Pitocin). Almost 1/5 of those mothers stated a non-medical factor as partially the reason for the attempted induction. The drugs used actually caused four out of five women’s labors to begin.

VBAC’s

Of women with a previous cesarean, 26% had vaginal deliveries. 42% of women with previous cesarean births were denied the option of a VBAC. Medical concerns and caregiver unwillingness were the leading reasons for denial of a VBAC. A small proportion reported hospital unwillingness.

Epidural Use

Almost 2/3 of the mothers received epidurals, including 59% who had vaginal deliveries. Mothers gave high ratings to the ability of epidurals to relieve labor pain but between 26-41% of mothers were unable to respond to questions about side effects associated with epidurals.

Pain Relief Methods Rarely Used

Although birth balls, bathtubs and hot showers are highly rated (by the mothers who used them) to reduce labor pain, these approaches were used by 8% or fewer of the women surveyed.

Cesarean Delivery

24% of mothers had a cesarean delivery. About half of those deliveries were planned, predominantly among women with a previous cesarean delivery.

Descriptions of Labor and Birth Experiences

Mothers’ Descriptions of How They Felt During Labor
All Respondents (n=1583)
Positive%Negative%
Alert82Overwhelmed48
Capable77Weak41
Confident65Frightened39
Calm63Agitated36
Unafraid44Groggy27
Powerful34Helpless25




Feelings After Birth

How Women Felt in Weeks and Months After Childbirth
All Respondents(n=1583)
Positive%Negative%
Rewarded85Tired93
Supported84Messy60
Contented74Unsure39
Confident73Isolated35
Clear-headed26Discouraged26
Rested14Confused25




Baby’s Location After Delivery

In the first hour of birth, most babies were in their mother’s arms (40%) or in their partner’s arms (13%). Of those babies with hospital staff, most were there for routine care (69%) and the rest for some type of special care (30%). Most mothers (56%) said they had their baby with them at all times.

Breastfeeding

67% of overall mothers intended to breastfeed their babies. 59% of mothers were exclusively breastfeeding at one week postpartum. While most mothers said the hospital was supportive of their decision to breastfeed, 80% of breastfeeding mothers reported receiving free formula samples and offers from hospital staff. 47% of breastfed babies were given water or formula to supplement their breastmilk.

General Postpartum Health

The most commonly described postpartum problems were physical exhaustion (76%), sore nipples/breasts (74%), lack of sexual desire (59%), backache (51%), or painful perineum (44%). The problems that were most likely to persist for at least 6 months were lack of sexual desire (16%) and physical exhaustion (11%).

Cesarean Postpartum Health

For women who received a cesarean delivery, the most commonly identified health problem was pain in the area of incision in the first two months after birth (83%). 25% of these mothers cited this as a major problem while 58% said it was a minor issue. About 7% of mothers with a cesarean said this problem persisted at least 6 months after birth.

Doulas and Midwives

While doulas and midwives are the most highly rated providers of labor support, they were only used by 5% and 11% of the mothers, respectively. The following charts reflect the rating of supportive care received by the surveyed mothers.

Base: Received Supportive Care
From Specified Person
Excellent
%
Good
%
Fair
%
Poor
%
Doula or Trained Labor Assistant(n=81)711586
Midwife(n=163)662194
Another Family Member or Friend(n=733)602479
Partner/Husband(n=1469)5924711
Doctor(n=826)5230107
Nursing Staff(n=1337)4833127












Optimal fetal positioning

The following are ways to get your baby into the right position for birth and avoid a posterior (OP) presentation (and thus a longer and more painful labor and the greater possibility of medical interventions).

During the last 6 weeks of pregnancy, try:

  • Upright and forward leaning positions that tilt the pelvis forward
  • Pelvic rocking on all fours
  • Lying down on the left side with pillows behind the back and the top leg resting forwards so the knee touches the mattress
  • Swimming
  • Prenatal yoga
  • Taking the stairs 2 at a time
  • Alternative / complementary medical practices such as acupuncture, chiropractic care, and homeopathy.

When nearing full term, avoid:

  • Relaxing in semi-reclining positions with knees higher than hips
  • Long trips in cars with bucket seats
  • Sitting with legs crossed
  • Deep squats (modified squats are fine)

In labor, try:

  • Supported squatting (use deeper squats only when you can see the baby's hair)
  • Kneeling or hands and knees
  • Knee-chest position
  • The dangle position
  • If you have an epidural or need to rest, try alternating the right-right angle and left-lean over positions while side-lying

In labor, avoid:

  • Lying down (unless side-lying)
  • Semi-reclining
  • Sitting

 

 

 

 

Breastfeeding Your Baby For A Day

Breastfeeding is almost always the best choice for your baby. If it doesn’t seem like the best choice for you right now, these guidelines may help:

IF YOU NURSE YOUR BABY FOR JUST A FEW DAYS, he will have received your colostrum, or early milk. By providing antibodies and the food his brand-new body expects, nursing gives your baby his first and easiest “immunization” and helps get his digestive system going smoothly. Breastfeeding is how your baby expects to start, and helps your own body recover from the birth. Why not use your time in the hospital to prepare your baby for life through the gift of nursing?

IF YOU NURSE YOUR BABY FOR FOUR TO SIX WEEKS, you will have eased her through the most critical part of her infancy. Newborns who are not breastfed are much more likely to get sick or be hospitalized, and have many more digestive problems than breastfed babies. After 4 to 6 weeks, you’ll have worked through any early nursing concerns, too. Make a serious goal of nursing for a month - call La Leche League or a LactationConsultant if you have any questions, and you’ll be in a better position to decide whether continued breastfeeding is for you.

IF YOU NURSE YOUR BABY FOR 3 OR 4 MONTHS, his digestive system will have matured a great deal, and he will be much better able to tolerate the foreign substances in commercial formulas. If there is a family history of allergies, you will greatly reduce his risk by waiting a few more months before adding anything at all to his diet of breastmilk. And giving nothing but your milk for the first four months gives strong protection against ear infections for a whole year.

IF YOU NURSE YOUR BABY FOR 6 MONTHS, she will be much less likely to suffer an allergic reaction to formula or other foods (the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends waiting until about 6 months to offer solid foods). Nursing for at least 6 months helps ensure better health throughout your baby’s first year of life, and reduces your own risk of breast cancer. Nursing for 6 months or more greatly reduces your little one’s risk of ear infections and childhood cancers.

IF YOU NURSE YOUR BABY FOR 9 MONTHS, you will have seen him through the fastest and most important brain and body development of his life on the food that was designed for him - your milk. Nursing for at least this long will help ensure better performance all through his school years. Weaning may be fairly easy at this age... but then, so is nursing! If you want to avoid weaning this early, be sure you’ve been available to nurse for comfort as well as just for food.

IF YOU NURSE YOUR BABY FOR A YEAR, you can avoid the expense and bother of formula. Her one-year-old body can probably handle most of the table foods your family enjoys. Many of the health benefits this year of nursing has given your child will last her whole life. She will have a stronger immune system and will be much less likely to need braces or speech therapy. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends nursing for at least a year, to help ensure normal nutrition and health for your baby.

IF YOU NURSE YOUR BABY FOR 18 MONTHS, you will have continued to provide your baby’s normal nutrition and protection against illness at a time when illness is common in other babies. Your baby is probably well started on table foods, too. He has had time to form a solid bond with you – a healthy starting point for his growing independence. A former U.S. Surgeon General said, “it is the lucky baby... that nurses to age two.”

IF YOUR CHILD WEANS WHEN SHE IS READY, you can feel confident that you have met your baby’s physical and emotional needs in a very normal, healthy way. In cultures where there is no pressure to wean, children tend to nurse for at LEAST two years. The World Health Organization and UNICEF strongly encourage breastfeeding through toddlerhood: “Breastmilk is an important source of energy and protein, and helps to protect against disease during the child’s second year of life.” Our biology seems geared to a weaning age of between 2 1/2 and 7 years, and it just makes sense to build our children’s bones from the milk that was designed to build them. Your milk provides antibodies and other protective substances as long as you continue nursing, and families of nursing toddlers often find that their medical bills are lower than their neighbors’ for years to come. Mothers who have nursed long term have a still lower risk of developing breast cancer. Children who were nursed long term tend to be very secure, and are less likely to suck their thumbs or carry a blanket. Nursing can help ease both of you through the tears, tantrums, and tumbles that come with early childhood, and helps ensure that any illnesses are milder and easier to deal with. It’s an all-purpose mothering tool you won’t want to be without! Don’t worry that your child will nurse forever. All children stop eventually, no matter what you do, and there are more nursing toddlers around than you might guess.

WHETHER YOU NURSE FOR A DAY OR FOR SEVERAL YEARS, the decision to nurse your child is one you need never regret. And whenever weaning takes place, remember that it is a big step for both of you. If you choose to wean before your child is ready, be sure to do it gradually, and with love.